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Shoud I date my coworker or quit my job?

Feb 25 2014 Published by under Uncategorized

Julia Richardson By Julia Richardson –

Workplace romances are a common occurrence. According to Psychology Today, up to 47% of employees have been involved with a coworker. You spend a lot of time at work, and unless you work alone, this means you spend a lot of time with your coworkers. You form relationships. It’s only natural that some transcend platonic friendships and become romantic.  But is a workplace romance good or bad? Unfortunately, there’s no concrete, definitive answer.

If you’re thinking about dating a coworker, take the following three factors into consideration:

Company Policy: Many companies have strict rules about dating other employees. If you aren’t sure if yours does, consult your employee handbook. If your company forbids it, your office romance could cost you your job.  Are you willing to sacrifice your job for love?datecoworker

Love or Convenience:  Before you enter into an office romance, assess your feelings. Ask yourself what it is that you like about this person. Think about what you have in common. Relationships of convenience rarely progress to the next level. So ask yourself: Do your interests go beyond work? Is this budding love or just a matter of convenience?

The Break-up:  While your office romance could lead to happily ever after, it may also end in tears. Consider how closely you work together and how it may affect the workplace dynamic. In the outside world, a break-up means never having to see that person again. In the office, it could mean spending 40 plus hours a week with your ex. Are you prepared for that?

Ultimately, the decision to date a coworker is a personal one. An office romance is tempting, and it’s not always a bad idea. It does, however, require careful consideration. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst and make an informed choice. Know that in the end, no matter how good or bad it goes, you may find yourself looking for a new job.

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Best reasons to quit job

Feb 18 2014 Published by under Uncategorized

Julia Richardson By Julia Richardson –

Once upon a time people entered the workforce and stayed with one company until they retired. That’s no longer the case, with fewer and fewer workers staying in one job for the entirety of their career.  The workforce dynamic has changed on both ends- from employer to employee. While some may still argue that you should never ever quit your job, there are many valid reasons to quit. Here are the top five best reasons to quit your job.

1.    Your Health

We all have bad days or even bad weeks at work. We may have dealt with a bad boss or coworker, but when a bad anything is a consistently overwhelming cause of stress it can be harmful to your mental and physical health. Take a look at WebMD’s list of stress symptoms. If you can relate and your job is the source, it’s time to move on.


2.    Lack of Advancement Opportunities

The difference between a job and a career is mobility and movement. While this movement may not always be linear, there should be opportunities to grow and do more with more responsibility.  Idealist Careers offers advice from Herminia Ibarra on creating movement within your current career, but this may not be possible. If where you are is where you’ll always be, your job may not be worth your time and effort.

3.    Stagnant Skillset

When you start your career, the hope is that you grow and gain experience. Part of that experience is in growing your skill set.  You should be met with challenges and have the ability to expand your skillset. The job market is constantly evolving and so should you. Staying at a job that offers no challenge and stagnant professional growth is harmful to you and your career. Staying up to date on your industry is critical to a successful career, as Mind Tools points out.

4.    Constant Uncertainty

No job is certain, and few are forever. We all know and accept this. Even so, if you’re constantly worried about the next downsize, the future of your job, it can affect your job performance and mental health.  Economic studies have shown that uncertainty leads to decline in performance. You need a certain degree of stability in order to grow in your work and profession. If this sounds familiar, take control of the situation. Don’t spend your career in fear.

5.    Lack of Stimulation

A recent Gallup poll found that seven out of ten workers in the U.S. are mentally checked out at work. If you’re bored in your job, it may be a symptom of a bigger problem.  Your job may be unfulfilling and unsatisfying. You may be overworked and underappreciated or underpaid. Whatever the cause, you simply don’t care anymore. This isn’t good for you or your career.  If you’ve mentally checked out, it’s time to explore other options. You owe it to yourself.

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Bad Reasons to quit job

Feb 11 2014 Published by under Uncategorized

Julia Richardson By Julia Richardson – Many times we want to quit but talk ourselves out of it- even when it’s a job we love. Maybe it’s a moment of exhaustion and frustration, but when cooler heads prevail, you are usually glad you didn’t act on impulse. If you think you just can’t take it anymore and want to quit, have a look at the following list of the worst reasons to quit your job, along with solutions to each problem.

1.    Bad Day

The Problem: We’ve all had those days where nothing goes right. It’s hard to pinpoint what’s wrong, because everything is wrong. From start to finish it’s all been bad. As a result you hate the world and are ready to wave the white flag and surrender. You don’t just want to quit your job- you want to quit everything.


The Solution: Bad days come and go, but unless your bad days become more frequent than your good days (which could indicate another problem altogether), a bad day is no reason to quit your job. If your bad day has you ready to quit, step away. Call some friends and meet up for a drink after work. Take a walk or go shopping- the important thing is to do something you love. Tomorrow is a new day.

2.    Bad Coworker

The Problem: Your coworker is too much to handle. Maybe he’s obnoxious. Maybe he’s a know-it-all or a one-upper- but you just can’t take it anymore. You’re ready to do anything and everything necessary to get away from him. You want to quit. You love your job, or at least like it, but you hate him so much you’re willing to walk away.

The Solution:  You can’t control others, but you can control you. Ask to be moved to a different location within the office where you’re less likely to be bothered. If it’s certain behaviors that are the problem, talk to your coworker. Be assertive, not mean. If all else fails, practice self-calming techniques- like THESE– and channel the energy once spent obsessing over his annoying behaviors into increased productivity.

3.    Bad Boss

The Problem: Your boss is horrible. He’s so horrible he makes the bosses on Horrible Bosses look like saints. You thought you could tough it out but it’s all too much.  You aren’t alone. The number one reason people quit their job is due to a bad boss, so your relationship with your boss definitely matters.

The Solution: Assess the situation in order to determine what is wrong in the relationship. Is it something he’s done or doing, or is it a matter of perception? Communicate with your boss regularly in order to establish a work-related relationship with him. Again, you can only control yourself (not anyone else), so adjust your mindset and dig deep. Focus on your work. Remember that you don’t have to love your boss to love your job.

4.    Bad Review

The Problem:  You’ve had your yearly performance review and you didn’t do well. Whether you completely tanked or merely failed to live up to your own expectations, it doesn’t matter because you’re upset and wondering if you’re in the right field or doing the right thing. You find yourself questioning everything, and you’re thinking it’s time for a career move. You want to quit.

The Solution:  Like a bad day- because, let’s face it; a bad review makes for a bad day- you need some separation. Take a little time to decompress after work and start fresh tomorrow. This isn’t the time for snap judgment. A review is meant to be constructive, use your review as a challenge to perform better. Don’t tie your potential or self-worth to a review. Instead, use it to your advantage. It’s all about attitude.

5.    Bad Decision

The Problem: You made a bad decision and now things at work have gone from good to bad. The impact could be small, like increased time working on a task, or big, resulting in monetary loss. Either way, you feel horrible and maybe even a little embarrassed. You may even be scared that you’re going to get fired. You want to quit to save face and forget it ever happened.

The Solution: As painful as the consequences of a bad decision may be, it is a necessary evil that will help you grow as a person and in your profession. Be prepared to make mistakes in business and life. Don’t run away from the problem, but take an honest look at what went wrong. While you shouldn’t dwell on your mistakes, you should understand their value and learn from them. If you do, your mistakes will be an asset and not a liability.

Ultimately, a job deal breaker is only a deal breaker if you allow it to be. If you are unhappy at your job, the option to quit is always an option. However, if you find yourself having a bad day, making a bad decision, getting a bad review, or questioning your sanity due to a bad boss or coworker, don’t become discouraged. Before you quit, evaluate the situation. Sometimes it really is possible to turn lemons into lemonade. It’s simply a matter of perspective.

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How to get a job back after you quit

Feb 04 2014 Published by under Uncategorized

Julia Richardson By Julia Richardson –
The act of quitting your job can be liberating, especially if you’re miserable. It’s not a decision to take lightly, but the opportunity for happiness is often irresistible- whether it is in the form of a more fulfilling job or a larger paycheck. It’s a gamble, sure, but you’ve calculated the risk and determined it’s worth it. Unfortunately, it’s not always worth it. Sometimes the grass really isn’t greener on the other side. Sometimes, you learn the hard way that things really can be worse. Sometimes, you find yourself with a hearty dose of job remorse.

takemebackSo, what do you do? Can you ask for your old job back? Yes you can. Should you? Maybe. How? Here are a few considerations to help answer these questions if you find yourself wanting your old job back.

Contact Human Resources
Whether it’s been a week or a year since you left your old job, the first step to getting it back is to see whether or not you actually can get it back. Human resources will be able to access your work file and determine your eligibility.  Keep your contact with human resources polite and professional. As Ruth Mayhew at the Houston Chronicle points out, think of HR staff members as “gatekeepers” that can essentially make or break whether or not you get your job back. Be nice.

Talk to your old coworkers
Reach out to your old coworkers. You may already do this, but begin to share your unhappiness with them.  They are your eyes and ears at your old job. Tell them that you want to come back first and gauge their response. This will help prepare you for the task of asking your former boss. It may be out of your coworker’s hands, but having them on your side to vouch for you can help tremendously.

Make contact with your old boss
This may seem daunting, but it’s made much easier if you left on good terms.  No matter what your relationship is, take it slow. suggests sending an email first, but if you do call, make it brief. Don’t lay it all out in that first email or phone call. Instead, give your former boss time to process the request and set up a meeting to talk further about it all.  Save the details for your in-person talk.

Have good “why” answers
Think about why you left your old job in the first place. Now, think about why you want to come back. Think specifically. Ask yourself why your former employer should re-hire you. Think about why it will be different this time, if you’re rehired. Be prepared to answer these questions repeatedly. You’ll need to be confident in yourself and your responses in order to be convincing.  And you’ll need to be convincing to get your old job back.

Be prepared for rejection
Your old job may be filled and another job within your old company may not be open. Your former boss may not be comfortable re-hiring you. Whatever the reason, you need to be prepared for rejection and the possibility that going back isn’t an option. Before panic sets in, remember- a new job can be challenging in ways you hadn’t anticipated. Consider giving yourself time to adapt to your new role. Consider talking to your new boss about your concerns. Think about looking for a new job (again), but if you quit your new job, remember: Don’t burn bridges on your way out. You might just want your old job back (again.)

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