Shoud I date my coworker or quit my job?

February 25 2014

Julia Richardson By Julia Richardson –

Workplace romances are a common occurrence. According to Psychology Today, up to 47% of employees have been involved with a coworker. You spend a lot of time at work, and unless you work alone, this means you spend a lot of time with your coworkers. You form relationships. It’s only natural that some transcend platonic friendships and become romantic.  But is a workplace romance good or bad? Unfortunately, there’s no concrete, definitive answer.

If you’re thinking about dating a coworker, take the following three factors into consideration:

Company Policy: Many companies have strict rules about dating other employees. If you aren’t sure if yours does, consult your employee handbook. If your company forbids it, your office romance could cost you your job.  Are you willing to sacrifice your job for love?datecoworker

Love or Convenience:  Before you enter into an office romance, assess your feelings. Ask yourself what it is that you like about this person. Think about what you have in common. Relationships of convenience rarely progress to the next level. So ask yourself: Do your interests go beyond work? Is this budding love or just a matter of convenience?

The Break-up:  While your office romance could lead to happily ever after, it may also end in tears. Consider how closely you work together and how it may affect the workplace dynamic. In the outside world, a break-up means never having to see that person again. In the office, it could mean spending 40 plus hours a week with your ex. Are you prepared for that?

Ultimately, the decision to date a coworker is a personal one. An office romance is tempting, and it’s not always a bad idea. It does, however, require careful consideration. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst and make an informed choice. Know that in the end, no matter how good or bad it goes, you may find yourself looking for a new job.

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